Do I know how to do this... No. I'm not even sure what it means. I guess for me, living like a G means really having all my stuff together.
Recently, in a sad, sorry online dating experience which ended with me daydreaming about him about being my soulmate, until he told me he had a girlfriend "now", this fellow asked me about having it together.
He gave me a helpful checklist, which I'll provide here:
1. Job? Yes
2. Car? Yes
3. Own Place? Yes
4. Graduated From? MA degree
5. Job Related to Major? Yes, after 3 years of looking!
6. Relationship? Nope, as you may have guessed with the online dating
7. Parents? Love them, but we have our moments
8. Friends? The best, but they all live in different cities. I have friends around here, but not best friends.
9. Finances? Could be better. Now that I've finally got a salaried job, I can start saving.
10. Health? Pretty good. I'm working on it.
11. Happiness? Reasonably good. I think my anxiety levels are high related to my job, but I'm hoping living like a G can solve that, haha!
How I felt when I filled out this checklist the first time:
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| What WHAT! Holler at your girl who's got it together! |
So, while according to this checklist my life is together (heck yeah, homies. I would've failed this checklist this time last year..), I feel like I'm floating, or falling, or spiraling, or drifting. I'm having a hard time getting together the details of my life, now that the big pieces are in place. Anyone else in this place in life?
I've spent the last three years working my booty off to remain independent, go to graduate school, and get by. I wasn't worried about the details, because I didn't even have the big picture together.
Now that I have the big pieces in place (thank goodness), it's time to start getting everything else together.
Does that mean that you shouldn't be here if you don't have your big pieces? No. Maybe getting your details sorted out will help you towards your goals.
I really need the accountability of this blog, however, because I am a flake. Examples?
Here are many:
I tell myself I'm going to eat healthy, but then it's easier to order take-out. Um, no it's not fool. It takes you 15 minutes to decide what you want, it takes ~60 minutes for delivery (because let's be serious, homegirl is not driving anywhere when I'm too lazy to cook). In that time, I could cook, eat, and clean up a healthy meal. But I don't. I order enough food for 4 people, and eat fatty, soggy takeout for days. Because I'm "too busy" to cook. False. I need to actually follow through on my freezer cooking ideas and healthy cooking knowledge.
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What I end up with: Papa Johns... Not really.
I actually order from a local pizza place,
or middle eastern food, or chinese.
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I keeping asking my partner at work to join a gym with me. We both moved to the area recently, are about the same age, single, etc. We spend a lot of time together, and it totally makes sense for us to join a gym together. We work the same hours, and live in the same area. However, I use her reluctance (or whatever, feet are dragging and it not just her) as an excuse not to join myself and go. I'll be honest, I'm pretty terrified of just joining and walking in this gym, partly because I'm a bit shy and partly because of the area where I live. I know it's going to be filled with juiceheads, soccer moms, and college girls. Not really my scene. See! More excuses!
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| If you have to ask, you'll never know. |
I bought paint over Christmas for my bedroom, because it was this icy baby blue when I moved in three years ago, and I've wanted to paint it gray since I moved in. Besides taking me 3 years to even buy paint, I have just now (2ish months later) getting around to actually painting it.
It's these things that I want to get together. The stuff that is really not difficult, but when you are stressed at work, and you are just starting out on your own, and you've never done it before, this stuff can be overwhelming.
One More List
What you're going to find here:
1. How To: Cook healthy meals for one or two, and bring healthy food to work for lunch, etc. Healthy cooking stuff, y'all. Maybe workouts, if I ever join a gym..
2. How To: Dress like a G at work all day, 'erry day. I have a small online shopping problem, but never clean my closets out. I think if I could clean out some items I'll never wear again, I could be more on top of looking stylish daily. As it stands, I think I typically have 3-4 "Wow, you look nice!"days and 1-2 "Well, technically it's within dress code..."days... Get it together, girl!
3. How To: Bargain Shop.. so your crew gets jealous. I think I have pretty good style (ahem ahem.. I am dressing myself, so of course I like it). I also shop a lot on bargain sites or in stores like TJ Maxx and Marshalls. I have a lot of quality clothing that I did not spend a ton on.
4. How To: Get and keep your house (or room, or dorm, or suite, or flat...) clean and organized. This is where I struggle the most. I feel like it's playing whack-a-mole sometimes. I get one room under control, and suddenly another room explodes with chores... Is this real life? (David after dentist anyone?)
5. I'm not quite ready to explore my career with y'all yet, but that's a possibility down the line. Maybe some job related stuff here..
Anything else you want to see? Shout out to all the peeps who made it to the end of this long post, and please comment what you'd like to see.
Chel